Why Can’t You Just Sit Still?

To fidget or not to fidget? That is the question I’ve been getting a lot! You watch your child on their zoom. They’ve turned their video off and they’re pacing the room. They are doodling while the teacher talks. They are hopping around on zoom looking at their classmates faces. This doesn’t look right. Right?Continue reading “Why Can’t You Just Sit Still?”

Little Miss Fix It- Put Your Tools Away!

What have you learned the most from in your life?  Your failures or your successes? Your struggles or your achievements?  If you are like me, I have learned far more from my failures and struggles than my successes and triumphs. Guess what? The same goes for our kids.   As parents, one of the most difficultContinue reading “Little Miss Fix It- Put Your Tools Away!”

Defying Gravity-How to Set Limits Like a Pro

Did you know there are some limit setting imposters? Parenting behaviors that look like limit setting, but are not. Things like lecturing, warning, deal making, encouraging, reminding. Any of these make an appearance at your house? I found that most of the time when I thought I was setting a limit, I was actually not.Continue reading “Defying Gravity-How to Set Limits Like a Pro”

Are Parents Creating “PRAISE JUNKIES”?

Are you creating a praise junkie? I think I might be…. “According to a survey conducted by Columbia University, 85 percent of American parents think it’s important to tell their kids that they’re smart.” Studies out of Columbia University suggest that the TYPE of praise parents provide may be the key. Students who were praisedContinue reading “Are Parents Creating “PRAISE JUNKIES”?”

How to Support Children with School Anxiety

Sunday is a day of dread for many parents and kids this time of year. Coming off the weekend, headed into another school week, anxieties amplify. Kids cry, can’t fall asleep, develop nausea and make threats like they’re never going back to school. Parents feel sick, angry and nervous themselves. In my opinion, there isContinue reading “How to Support Children with School Anxiety”

Be a Container, not a Director

Containers hold things. Containers have boundaries. Containers are strong, predictable, and comforting. From a mom who spent lots of years trying to fix and direct, this shift has been most transformational. – TRICIA THOMPSON How do parents help their children develop that strong sense of self? One way is to shift from being a directorContinue reading “Be a Container, not a Director”

Why Parents Should Stop Trying To “Fix” Homework Anxiety

Homework tears yet? One thing I’m working on is letting my kids have some time in their struggle before I jump in to “fix” it. As parents, we are tired at the end of the day too. We want the homework over with as much as they do and we, just like our kids, haveContinue reading “Why Parents Should Stop Trying To “Fix” Homework Anxiety”